📺Eileen Tesch – Living Exponentially 💥💡
Gary Lokers, father, entrepreneur and local activist and now author joins Eileen to talk about his first book, ” Scarcity Love.” He explains that it’s more like a workbook to unravel the missing pieces to a fulfilling life, not only for the adults, but to set an example for our children.
INTRODUCTION
The Hunger We Don’t Realize We Carry
Some men grow up with full hearts.
Some grow up with full hands.
I grew up with neither.
I was raised in a home where people survived, but they didn’t soften.
Where the word love was implied but never spoken.
Where hugs were rare, praise even rarer, and emotional warmth was something you watched other families experience.
No one sat me down and said, “I’m proud of you.”
No one reached out and pulled me in just because they wanted me close.
Affection wasn’t part of the language.
Emotional safety wasn’t part of the culture.
And tenderness? That was something for other people, in other lives.
As a boy, I didn’t know what I was missing.
As a teenager, I learned to live without it.
But as a man I discovered just how deep the hunger had grown.
Because here’s the truth I didn’t understand for decades:
If you grow up without enough love, you don’t grow up neutral.
You grow up starving.
And starving people don’t choose food wisely.
They don’t ask if the meal is healthy, aligned, or sustainable.
They just reach for whatever fills the ache.
That’s what emotional scarcity does to a man.
It makes him ignore red flags.
It makes him cling to relationships that don’t feed him.
It makes him accept misalignment, chaos, or imbalance just to feel wanted.
It makes him grateful for affection, even if that affection costs him pieces of himself.
This book is about that hunger.
The quiet ache that lives inside men who were never held, never affirmed, never taught how to receive love , only how to avoid losing it.
It’s about the boy I was, the man I became, and the patterns that shaped both.
It’s about the relationship that opened my eyes, and the heartbreak that exposed the wounds I had been carrying since childhood.
It’s about the moment I realized I didn’t lose someone I found myself.
More importantly, this book is about breaking cycles.
Because when a man finally wakes up from scarcity, he begins to learn a new way to exist:
A way where love isn’t chased, but chosen.
A way where boundaries aren’t dangerous, but necessary.
A way where affection isn’t earned, but exchanged.
A way where your past doesn’t dictate your future.
A way where you lead your son/daughter with the warmth you never received.
This book isn’t about blame.
It isn’t about bitterness.
It isn’t about painting anyone as a villain.
It’s about understanding how childhood writes the script for our adult love lives and how we rewrite it when the script stops working.
It’s about remembering the boy who wasn’t hugged,
honoring the person who endured,
and becoming the person who finally chooses love from abundance instead of fear.
This is the journey from scarcity to wholeness.
From emotional hunger to emotional clarity.
From being loved wrong to learning how to love right.
Welcome to Scarcity Love.
Your healing starts here.
Editors Note: This video is an editorial, the thoughts, opinions, beliefs, viewpoints, and accuracy expressed in this program are not necessarily those of GBS Media or Blue Water Healthy Living.
